A person who has what appears to be an insurmountable problem in their lives. They’re asking about addiction how do you deal with states of addiction and specifically. Here the person is worried that their addiction to pornography and masturbation are ruining their life. which is, of course, a sad thing to occur no one wants to have their life ruined. so yes so in in in general we’re talking about addiction here but specifically, we’re talking about pornography and masturbation.
which are probably two of the least discussed things in Buddhism I don’t think you’ll find too many Buddhist lives in terms of Buddhist monks. I don’t think you’ll find too many Buddhist monks giving talks about these things but I’m not afraid to do so and I don’t think Buddhists would be afraid to do so I think often culturally. it’s a taboo to talk about these things but if you look at the Buddhist texts they are often quite explicit at least in in in monastic circles no talking about the nature of these states and these things so I think this pornography and masturbation are two very strong addictions
They’re two addictions
which are a problem in ours in the world of a big problem or they’re quite prevalent let’s put it that way let’s not get into judgment or part, yeah judgment will not get into some kind of categorization as problem yep because I think that’s the first answer on a broad level the first way to overcome any addiction is to re-evaluate it the Buddha started his talk on but you know on petechiae Sama pada which is dependent origination with ignorance so in the Buddhist teaching it’s not an addiction that is the problem.
even though on a basic level the Buddha said yes it’s our craving for things that leads to suffering but the question is why do we crave and the Buddha’s answer is based on it on ignorance because we have a misunderstanding about the object of our desires so it’s not that somehow we have to cut something out or destroy some kind of addiction you know there’s this addictive tendency.
we have to see clearly we have to see the object clearly the reason why we’re addicted to x y&z is that we don’t understand them and the Buddha’s teaching is that if we just understood these things as they were we would not cling to them we would not desire for them that’s it that’s all there is there’s no brainwashing involved there’s no theory no Dogma simply understanding things as they are and the claim is that when you do so you won’t be attached to them you won’t want them you won’t have any desire for them or for the erratic the eradication of them so when you say that masturbation is and pornography is ruining your life.
I have to suspect that as with so many other addictions in so many other cases there is there some suppression going on than some judgment going on in regards to these dates probably in all truth if you are honest with yourself you’ll find that it’s not ruining your life that you’re most likely overreacting and it’s this overreaction. that is causing a causing a reaction causing the opposite effect that instead of chasing after them you’re repressing them and instead of dealing with the emotion and the addiction.
you are clinging to it as a problem and when you the more you worry and concern yourself and are upset by the situation the more of a problem it becomes the more attachment there is and the less able you are to deal with it because rather than going deeply into it you want to push it away you want to keep it at arm’s length and the problem is if you keep things that arm’s length you aren’t able to understand them masturbation pornography.
They have to do with this desire they have done it with several things and specifically in the Buddhist teaching it’s something that I think is missed by probably the majority of Buddhists and the majority of people that study the Buddhist teaching only because the majority of Buddhists and people who study the Buddhist teaching are not really practising meditation for those people who practice meditation it becomes quite clear that but each SM about it the Buddhist teaching on dependent origination is the answer that you’re looking for it answers if you understand it from a meditative point of view or from a point of view of ultimate reality it answers.
This problem of addiction it and it gives the path out of addiction it helps you to understand how to overcome addiction starting with creating wisdom and understanding now the point being that in our addictions, in this case, this is a very good example and it applies very well to dependent origination that there are several things that are were being attacked becoming attached to where we’re craving or clinging to the first one is a sense object something that we see is something that we hear something that we smell taste feel or think so pornography
This is specifically related to the visual when you see something and let’s give an example of well I guess in either case you know the human body you see the human body and it stimulates some kind of response well this is exactly what the Buddha is talking about in petechiae so no part of the dependent origination it’s the six senses the seeing hearing smelling tasting feeling and even thinking that lead to a pleasant sensation or an unpleasant sensation likewise when you see something ugly it creates an unpleasant sensation in your body and in your mind when you see something neutral
It creates a neutral sensation it can calm you even when you see a still pool of water or nature it calms the mind so it creates a sensation so in the case when you see the human body it creates a pleasant sensation that Pleasant sensation creates a desire and a desire for the object that is bringing the sensation you want to see it more you want to see it again.
Because of that desire there arises our clinging where you need in a sense to see that object again and this is what leads to the addiction to pornography in this case you’ll find that you can’t just sit there you’ll start to think about it again and you try to think of how you can get it and where and you can get it and when you’re going to get it next and so on it becomes an addiction and this is the how the cycle goes and then you see it again and it creates more pleasant sensations and this is how the brain is being wired.
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